Life Without Ed: How One Woman Declared Independence from

Life Without Ed: How One Woman Declared Independence from Her Eating Disorder and How You Can Too In Life Without Ed, Jenni Schaefer shares how she ended her abusive relationship with Ed, the personification of her eating disorder Two things stood out to me in Schaefer s book in comparison to other works I ve read centered on eating disorders First, she sticks to the theme of making Ed a person giving her eating disorder a voice, a personality, and a hurtful spirit This creation of Ed as an actual entity gives her book consistency and allows her to provide a variety of helpful tips tak In Life Without Ed, Jenni Schaefer shares how she ended her abusive relationship with Ed, the personification of her eating disorder Two things stood out to me in Schaefer s book in comparison to other works I ve read centered on eating disorders First, she sticks to the theme of making Ed a person giving her eating disorder a voice, a personality, and a hurtful spirit This creation of Ed as an actual entity gives her book consistency and allows her to provide a variety of helpful tips taking out a chair and having a conversation with Ed, writing out a dialogue between her and Ed, to name a few The second distinction in Schaefer s book is her tone other works have a muchheavy, troubled feel to them, but Life Without Ed, while still serious, maintains a light and cheerful mood throughout its chapters Some might find this off putting or unrealistic, but I feel that others will appreciate its brightness as well as its good advice.Each chapter Life Without Ed runs from one to three pages, so the book is a quick read Still, it contains great anecdotes and developed, repeated ideas Recommended to those interested in eating disorders or who know of someone suffering from one, though I would also recommend other memoirs as well, such as Appetites by Caroline Knapp or Unbearable Lightness by Portia de Rossi As Schaefer quotes in this book, Maya Angelou once said, When you know better, you do better This was a very memorable read I feel like the author s prior therapy experience was a definite boon in her ability to convey her thoughts and feelings, as she truly held nothing back I feel this gave me a phenomenal understanding of just how difficult eating disorders are Conceptualizing her eating disorder as a man named Ed personified her difficulties and served to emphasize the persuasiveness and relentlessness of her thoughts very effectively I did not just envision the abstract thoug This was a very memorable read I feel like the author s prior therapy experience was a definite boon in her ability to convey her thoughts and feelings, as she truly held nothing back I feel this gave me a phenomenal understanding of just how difficult eating disorders are Conceptualizing her eating disorder as a man named Ed personified her difficulties and served to emphasize the persuasiveness and relentlessness of her thoughts very effectively I did not just envision the abstract thought itself, but instead envisioned a physical, malevolent shadow following her throughout the day and providing this thought as a statement in her ear Through this personification, I felt like her situation resonated muchstrongly with me I feel this book should be highly recommended reading for anyone attempting to understand an eating disorder, be they professional, aspiring professional, or layperson Some chapters become repetitive to an extent, but this serves to provide a really good message Eating disorders do not go away overnight You will make some mistakes, and some will be big mistakes You will have to work through the same problemthan once sometimes This is okay and you are not alone I feel the author s willingness to accept her failures and relapses serves to make this book a really good read for those who are also struggling with an eating disorder, above and beyond the suggestions and exercises provided at the end of each chapter Overly simplified view of ED s and recovering from one Strongly pushed in many treatment centers, maybe I would have beenreceptive if Jenni Schaefer hadn t been shoved down my throat and this elementary book touted as revolutionary. This book kept coming up in conversation while asking others what I might possibly do to help a struggling friend of mine.I was simply going to give it to her and say This was recommended to me Read it or not, but I want you to have it, but after flipping through it, as you do any book you just bought, I found myself engrossed in it and decided to read it myself first.I really liked the short, concise chapters It made an already relatively slim volume 188 pages even less daunting to read This book kept coming up in conversation while asking others what I might possibly do to help a struggling friend of mine.I was simply going to give it to her and say This was recommended to me Read it or not, but I want you to have it, but after flipping through it, as you do any book you just bought, I found myself engrossed in it and decided to read it myself first.I really liked the short, concise chapters It made an already relatively slim volume 188 pages even less daunting to read I m an impatient reader and can t stand when chapters are 60 pages long Jenni s writing wasn t too bad, either She has a very direct way of speaking which, while perhaps lacking in flair or ingenuity, is refreshingly easy to absorb and understand.What I m nervous of is how the book translates for an ED sufferer I suppose the success of the book should be some indication, but it seemed to me that most of Jenni s chapters consisted of I did this when I had my eating disorder I don t any Isn t recovery great While there s nothing necessarily wrong with this and, additionally, while Jenni does spend a good amount of time talking about how tough it is and what she did to overcome it , as a book directed at those afflicted with ED, I expected and hoped for ajourney driven This is what I went through, and this is an exercise I did, and this is what happened as a result of the exercise, and maybe this can help you too I m nervous that someone reading the book with ED may look at her almost rose tinted portrayal of recovery and feel inferior or unhelped.That said, I loved every Thom s Turn for precisely the reasons I criticised above Whenever Jenni forgot to talk about the actual process of recovery, Thom s blurbs would give a very tangible, easy, accessible foray into This is an exercise you can utilize on your own Give it a shot Overall, I enjoyed the book and will be gifting it to my friend I am in recovery from an eating disorder and have read this book three times over the last few years, and each time I have had a different reaction to the pages, and so I will separate my review into three sections.1 The first time I read this book it was mandatory reading while I was receiving inpatient treatment for anorexia I was extremely malnourished and had difficulty concentrating or holding information, the short chapters and short sentences were really helpful because that was all my I am in recovery from an eating disorder and have read this book three times over the last few years, and each time I have had a different reaction to the pages, and so I will separate my review into three sections.1 The first time I read this book it was mandatory reading while I was receiving inpatient treatment for anorexia I was extremely malnourished and had difficulty concentrating or holding information, the short chapters and short sentences were really helpful because that was all my brain could understand The idea of separating myself from the eating disorder was brand new to me, and viewing the eating disorder as an abusive ex made a lot of sense because I was in a horrible relationship at the time I finished the book thinking that someone else understood what it was like, and having new vernacular to use in treatment was welcomed.2 I attempted to read the book again the second time I went to treatment a year and a half later, but I hated it so much that I stopped halfway through All of the different voices and personalities that Jenni talks about it the book seemed ludicrous to me, I DID NOT hear an eating disorder voice, and the way she wrote about the eating disorders made us all seem so much crazier than we really were I did not connect at all with the idea of ED being separate from me, I wanted to heal in a way that did not falsely blame some voice or entity, I wanted to truly heal myself, and using ED like suggested in the book seemed invalidating to the work I was doing 3 I m in solid recovery now and chose to read the book again, it s been a few years since I was last in treatment and since the last time I read the book I actually had to buy it again because I threw it away after my second attempt at reading it I still think that Jenni went pretty far in separating the ED voice and perfectionist and should and all of the others and it s a bit odd, but my main take away is that she was not really in solid recovery when she wrote the book I see that so clearly now Jenni having such frequent relapses and being tempted so easily throughout the book is not Life Without Ed at all, it s life trying to get rid of him Comparing it to an abusive relationship she has decided to leave, she has decided it is not healthy and is gathering support and resources to leave But she is writing the book too early, she is writing about already being out of the relationship It doesn t work that way, and it sends a weird an inaccurate message about what recovery is like She is describing the very early stages of recovery, not solid recovery I gave the book 2 stars because it is okay If you want to learn how chaotic it is inside the head of someone with an eating disorder, this book can certainly help If you want to learn about some ways to move forward in healing, this book has some great insights But I take stars away because 2 of the 3 times I read the book I didn t care for it too much, and is it not really telling the story that the title makes you believe it is Second read still as good as the first time As someone who has been in pseudo recovery for a few years now, so his was such an important re read for me Genuinely excited about going back to therapy post vacation and tackling the anorexia for good Full of hope Potentially the most influential eating disorder recovery focused book I ve come across so far Laid out so very clearly, with the most fantastic tips on how to stay recovery focused, and anecdotes that even non ED humans can relate to Second read still as good as the first time As someone who has been in pseudo recovery for a few years now, so his was such an important re read for me Genuinely excited about going back to therapy post vacation and tackling the anorexia for good Full of hope Potentially the most influential eating disorder recovery focused book I ve come across so far Laid out so very clearly, with the most fantastic tips on how to stay recovery focused, and anecdotes that even non ED humans can relate to While there are times that Jenni Schaefer is repetitive throughout the book, the concept and theme is strong you have to disconnect from your eating disordered thoughts in order to make room for your own Here is a list of my favorite essays chapters of this book as a reminder to myself and yes, they are short for a reason and the author states why The format of this book is specifically designed for the eating disorder victim in mind my thoughts were so consumed by food and weight t While there are times that Jenni Schaefer is repetitive throughout the book, the concept and theme is strong you have to disconnect from your eating disordered thoughts in order to make room for your own Here is a list of my favorite essays chapters of this book as a reminder to myself and yes, they are short for a reason and the author states why The format of this book is specifically designed for the eating disorder victim in mind my thoughts were so consumed by food and weight that I found it hard to concentrate on anything else Reading was especially challenging because of the difficulty in concentrating and the almost impossibility of my sitting still long enough to read Taking into account the decreased concentration that you may experience, this book is divided into bite sized, easily digestible portions I have discovered that it is easier to stay focused on one short section as compared to a long chapter composed of page after page text Ms Perfectionist Not Just Anyone Holidays Overcompensating You Don t Look Like You Have an Eating Disorder Jenni had been in an abusive relationship with Ed for far too long He controlled Jenni s life, distorted her self image, and tried to physically harm her throughout their long affair Then, in therapy, Jenni learned to treat her eating disorder as a relationship, not a condition By thinking of her eating disorder as a unique personality separate from her own, Jenni was able to break up with Ed once and for allInspiring, compassionate, and filled with practical exercises to help you break up with your own personal ED Life Without Ed provides hope to the millions of people plagued by eating disorders Beginning with Jenni s divorce from Ed, this supportive, lifesaving book combines a patient s insights and experiences with a therapist s prescriptions for success to help you live a healthier, happier life without Ed ❮EPUB❯ ✾ El precio del Trono ✹ Author Pilar Urbano – Lavons.co.uk distorted her self image ☁ [PDF / Epub] ☀ The Taking of Annie Thorne By C.J. 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Bondage Author Dave Naz – Lavons.co.uk Jenni learned to treat her eating disorder as a relationship ✮ [PDF] ✩ Agosto Interminable By Gabriela Rosas ✻ – Lavons.co.uk not a condition By thinking of her eating disorder as a unique personality separate from her own ❴Ebook❵ ➦ A Really Good Day Author Ayelet Waldman – Lavons.co.uk Jenni was able to break up with Ed once and for allInspiring ➳ [Leer] ➮ Lecciones de alcoba Por Melanie Rogers ➾ – Lavons.co.uk compassionate ❰PDF / Epub❯ ☆ Fantasmas de hielo: La épica búsqueda de la expedición Franklin (ODISEAS) Autor Paul Watson – Lavons.co.uk and filled with practical exercises to help you break up with your own personal ED Life Without Ed provides hope to the millions of people plagued by eating disorders Beginning with Jenni s divorce from Ed [Read] ➶ The Book of Lost and Found ➳ Lucy Foley – Lavons.co.uk this supportive ❰PDF / Epub❯ ☁ Mr. Malcolms List Author Suzanne Allain – Lavons.co.uk lifesaving book combines a patient s insights and experiences with a therapist s prescriptions for success to help you live a healthier ❴BOOKS❵ ⚦ Green Planet (Dominoes: Level 2) Author Christine Lindop – Lavons.co.uk happier life without Ed Life Without Ed was a very interesting book, although not extremely helpful at the point in my journey when I read it I didn t take advantage of the exercises that Thom Rutledge provided at points throughout the book, although I would advise readers who are in recovery from an eating disorder to not ignore them as I did.Jenni s voice is clear and honest and helps make the reader feel not as alone in his her journey through recovery She s unflinchingly true to herself about triggers and problem Life Without Ed was a very interesting book, although not extremely helpful at the point in my journey when I read it I didn t take advantage of the exercises that Thom Rutledge provided at points throughout the book, although I would advise readers who are in recovery from an eating disorder to not ignore them as I did.Jenni s voice is clear and honest and helps make the reader feel not as alone in his her journey through recovery She s unflinchingly true to herself about triggers and problems that arose during her recovery, and she and Thom together make a good team to cowrite this book.One thing I appreciated about Life Without Ed is that Jenni avoided the use of any numbers no weights, no calories, no measurements of any type are mentioned in the book She also does her best to avoid giving tips and does a very good job at being an honest yet awesome role model for recovery I have had the privilege of hearing her speak in a small gathering and she made recovery seem possible for anyone who struggles with an eating disorder I guess in short, the message her book sends is Don t you dare give up, because there IS hope A bit repetitive in some parts, but that s a good thing because there are some things we need to hearthan once This is an incredibly helpful book that I m glad to have on my shelf, and I really like the fact that Schaefer took into consideration the possibility of her readers suffering from short attention spans due to their eating disorders Her decision to break her writing up into short sections throughout the book allows a lot of sufferers to sit down and work on their recovery withou A bit repetitive in some parts, but that s a good thing because there are some things we need to hearthan once This is an incredibly helpful book that I m glad to have on my shelf, and I really like the fact that Schaefer took into consideration the possibility of her readers suffering from short attention spans due to their eating disorders Her decision to break her writing up into short sections throughout the book allows a lot of sufferers to sit down and work on their recovery without being too overwhelmed Schaefer shares her journey through her illness in a non triggering way, and the story of her recovery gives hope that recovery is possible for everyone who struggles with an eating disorder


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